Pegging is a sexual activity in which a woman penetrates a man using a strap-on or harness dildo. More and more couples are experimenting with it because it provides intense physical sensations and a new form of intimacy. It combines curiosity, trust, and the breaking of traditional role patterns in the bedroom.
Pegging falls under the femdom fetish, a category in which the woman holds power over the man.
Pegging explained: how to do it safely
Pegging starts with proper preparation. It involves a giver (wearing a strap-on dildo) and a receiver (receiving the dildo anally).
Using a strap-on harness with a dildo of an appropriate size is essential. For beginners, choose a diameter of no more than 3 centimeters to allow the anus to adjust comfortably. Always use a water-based lubricant to reduce friction and make insertion smooth.
Hygiene is crucial: clean the dildo before and after use with warm water and an antibacterial toy cleaner. Communicate continuously during the experience about what feels good and what doesn’t. Gradually build up penetration to give muscles and nerves time to relax. Safe pegging also means using condoms on the dildo when used anally, especially when switching partners or moving to vaginal play.
Pegging falls within the realm of BDSM and is considered part of femdom. The power dynamic is similar to CFNM or cuckolding, where the man is submissive to the woman.
Why some men enjoy anal stimulation
The male body contains the prostate, often described as the “male G-spot.” This gland is located a few centimeters inside the anus and is extremely sensitive to targeted pressure. Prostate stimulation can lead to more intense orgasms than penis-only stimulation.
(Source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12128925/figure/f4/)
Many men also find the psychological aspect of pegging arousing: breaking traditional power dynamics, allowing vulnerability, and exploring a new dimension of sexual pleasure. A 2023 survey of 466 men found that 39% reported stronger orgasms and longer-lasting afterglow from prostate stimulation. (1)
The combination of a new physical stimulus (anal stimulation) and the power dynamic (giver controls the receiver) makes pegging appealing for couples.
Dangers of pegging
It’s important to avoid common mistakes. Pegging requires preparation to prevent physical injury for the receiver. Always proceed cautiously, allow the anus to adjust to the size of the dildo, and openly discuss comfort levels throughout the experience.
Pegging for lesbians
For women who are attracted to other women, pegging is a way to experience penetration without a male partner. The strap-on dildo is worn on the pelvis, leaving hands free to stimulate the breasts or clitoris.
Accessibility
Pegging is accessible for all sexual orientations—heterosexual couples, homosexual couples, or lesbian couples. It is versatile and allows exploration of anal stimulation using a prosthetic penis.
Alternative to pegging
An alternative to manual pegging is using a sex machine. The controlling partner can adjust depth, speed, and intensity through the machine’s controls. Sex machines can also allow double penetration, combining oral and anal stimulation simultaneously.
Sources
- Zaliznyak, M., Walton, A. B., Stelmar, J., Isaacson, D., Gaither, T. W., Knudson, G., & Garcia, M. M. (2025). Anal sex practices and rectal erogenous zone maps among men and women of diverse sexual orientations: an anatomic-map based questionnaire study. Sexual Medicine, 13(3), qfaf037. Accessed on 26/11/2025 from https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12128925/
